How To Weed Out Negative People

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How To Weed Out Negative People

28/02/2018 Introductory coaching session Life Coaching Relationship coaching Transformational Coaching 0

Why Negative People Are Literally Killing You (and How to Protect Your Positivity How To Protect Your Positivity From Negative People

Do you feel like negative people are literally killing you?  Are you experiencing difficulties in protecting your positivity?

Well research shows that negativity is incredibly harmful and contagious.  We have all encountered individuals who negatively impact us – those people who drain us of energy, demand more than they can provide, pull us down instead of push us forward, and can turn the happiest of moments into a miserable affair.

On the other hand, happiness is something that we all strive for.  The dangers of involving with people who are negative can with time have effects on our thoughts and we too run the risk of becoming negative people.

Yes I know that we cannot be positive oriented 24/7.  There are good and bad days, how we go about dealing with the bad days is what determines whether we are positive or negative oriented.

Here are a few questions that you need to ask yourself to determine whether a relationship has become unhealthy:

  • Is the energy taking more energy than it gives?
  • Do you often feel compelled to act in ways not of your choosing to satisfy this person?
  • Is there emotional blackmail, a struggle for dominance, and/or attempts to keep you from growth and change?
  • Are you uncomfortable being yourself around this person? Do you constantly fear how they will react to what you say and do?
  • Do I constantly feel that I’m not being heard?
  • Do we have a mutually beneficial relationship, or am I the one doing all of the giving?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are possibly in a toxic relationship.

Remember no matter how positive a person you are, negative people can affect your life, unless you take the right precautions.  You need to have a strategy how you week them out of your life.

  1. Say goodbye (be consequent)
  2. Set limit and boundaries (how much time you want to spend with complainers)
  3. Communication makes a difference – If you value the person, try to talk to them instead of bending bending to their desires- Be more assertive and clearly communicate your concerns.  Stop pretending that their behavior is okay, speak up for yourself, and put your foot down.
  4. Choose your battles

Remember avoid getting in the rat-race by not talking negatively about the person because in doing so, you utimately become the toxic person in the next relationship.  If you have taken steps to break up the relationship, then find positive ways and means of re-desiging your life and setting your priorities so that in future you can avoid getting in another toxic relationship.

During the process of separating yourself from toxic people, take time to self-reflect. It is easy and yes also tempting to always blame others, but in this case it is important that you know that you may be unconsciously contributing to the unhealthy relationship, so make any necessary changes to avoid future toxic relationships.



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