What Victims of Narcissismus Go Through
A person with NPD has an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for attention and admiration, and a strong sense of entitlement. They believe they are superior and have little regard for the feelings of others.
People who are in relationship with a narcissistic partner feel exhausted, tensed and with time they will develop low self-esteem. This is loving a narcissistic person is a job in itself. Victims find themselves living in a war zone and in most cases you do not have any idea exactly where and when the outburts will happen.
Narcissistic abuse victims express feelings of humiliation and shame, and apt to self-blame.
You will find that victims tend to ‘dissociate’ or detach from their own emotions, body, or surroundings. This is because they are living in a war zone where all forms of power and control are being used against them. Intimidation, emotional, sometimes physical and mental abuse; isolation becomes normal. Narcissistic person will exercise economic abuse, sexual abuse and control just to mention a few. The partner experiences a state of fear as the threat of abuse is always present. The develop strategies such as dissociation as an automatic coping mechanism against overwhelming stress.
So how do I know that I am entering into a relationship with somebody who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder or I am already in one only to discover after entering in an emotional relationship.
We have spoken about the verbal and physical abuse. They will belittle, accuse, blame, shame and make demands on you. Name-calling, undermining, opposing just to mention a few. Let us look at other abuses that you might experience when you find out that you are in a relationship with a narcissistic person:
- Manipulation: They people are manipulative in an indirect influencing way just so that they further their goals.
- Blackmail: These people are experts of emotional blackmail. They can switch-off their feelings of love to you in a twinkle of an eye and they will work on overcoming any love withdrawals by convincing themselves that they are right. Emotional blackmail includes threats, anger, warnings, initimidation and or punishment. You as a victim will be made to feel fearful, obligation and suffer from guilt for actually nothing since you did nothing wrong.
- Liars: These people are persistent deceptors just so that they avoid taking responsibilities for their actions.
If you have found yourself in this situation, then it is important that you seek help in order to understand this medical condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You may eventually need to take therapy in order to deal with symptoms and to help you get out of the narcissistic relationship. The therpay will also help them to identify in time in order to not repeating choosing partners in future.
Depending on how long you were in the relationship you will have to give time when working with a counsellor or therapist in order for you to recover from the trauma. Most important do not blame yourselves simply because the other person is the cause and that is because they have a medical condition.