Hi, I’m Elizabeth

Ideally I am known as the Queen of the Uncomfortable Discussions, where I engage with White people on racism.  Here on this side of the world, this is my weak side. My other side.  The other reality that I am currently trying to deal with and that is coping with the loss of a loved one.

On 9th April, 2021 at 16:54 hours Berlin time I watched my darling husband of 30+ years take his last breath.  It was a painful death where I literally begged him to depart and that I was going to be fine. It was an open lie, and I know he knew that I was lying because during his short illness I felt helpless.  I felt that we were picked on. His dying was not supposed to happen. We never spoke about it and there was no instruction manual available on how I am supposed to continue living without him.

Fast forward today is 10th January, 2022 and today the logistic company came to pick up our bed.  I am still not able to talk about him in the past tense.  You see I have not been able to sleep on a bed that we shared without his absence so selling it was the other alternative given that we had the bed for only two months.

This move I thought was going to derail me emotionally, but strangely enough it did not and I have no explanations as to why.  The bed is going to a very very close friend who has been on my toes and shadow as I walk the mourning journey so that feels really good and I want to think that he too would be agreeable to this solution.

What services do I want to offer my clients now that I have decided that it will go on the direction of walking the valley of mourning a loved one.  Well as a coach and trainer and as somebody who does not work with looking for the easiest way out, I came across what is called shadow work.  What is shadow work?

Shadow Work

Shadow Work will require that you confront the “dark side” of your personality because it consists chiefly of primitive, negative human emotions and impulses like rage, envy, greed, selfishness, desire, and the striving for power.  Most of us go to great lengths to protect our self-image from anything unflattering or unfamiliar. And so, it’s easier to observe another’s shadow before acknowledging one’s own shadow.

Using my experience as Cognitive Life Coach I will offer services amongst others that will help you:

  • Journey to Shadow Work
  • Dealing with troublesome emotions
  • Overcoming procrastination
  • Handling criticism constructively
  • Taking risks and making better decisions.

What to Expect

One thing I know for sure is that with the right support, guidance, and tools you will meet and become your future best self. My coaching will help you identify your goals and develop an actionable plan to achieve them.

  • You will gain an overall perspective of your life, before identifying which area you seek to improve or are currently unhappy with.
  • Goals will be broken down into more achievable objectives.
  • With the techniques, you will be taught how to use them and apply them in order to achieve your desired goal.

Professional Bio

Let me reveal my secret…  In my early years, I followed the traditional path. I got married to the love of my life who accepted my son from a previous “I thought that was love” relationship and was deeply fulfilled for many years, being a mom and working as administrative coordinator in various positions in Kenya and Germany.

After son grew up and started on his personal life’s journey, I decided to venture into my “dream career”. If you an African and was brought up with African parents, then you know that your career was already pre-determined for you at birth: a doctor, a lawyer, an architect, and engineer or the family shame! All those careers were never any that I loved or wanted to do.

This jumped the cold deep end and ventured into going back to study exactly the career that I always wanted to do – trainer and coach.

It did not happen just like that because for the longest time in my life I believed my mind that I was not worthy of being the person I am and that nobody would like to be trained let alone coach by an African, woman and on top disabled. I bought my mind narratives and it was not until I came across cognitive behavior therapy, did I realize what the power of mind means and how I have the power and the right to re-write my narrative according to how I want it. I came to learn that I actually hadn’t lost myself. It was more like I had never known myself in the first place. I had been so busy on life’s treadmill and fulfilling all my roles (wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee) that I had no time to get to know myself.  Who I was beyond all the roles that had defined me?

Finding myself was such a burden lifting experience.  Cognitive Behavioural Therapy gave me some answers and its tools helped me map my way in my self-discovery.  Guess what since then I am THRIVING and continuously experiencing successful moments one after the other.

I nowadays “stand” (I’m sitting in a wheelchair) 10 feet tall and should I am happier, fulfilled and successful all in our package!

And, that’s what I love to help others do. GET YOUR INNER SPARK BACK!